Small Group Toolbox: Practicing Prayer
Summary: Make sure members know they do not have to pray long – that simple, heartfelt prayers are enough.
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How do we practice prayer in small groups?
One of the earliest practices new believers need to cultivate is prayer. Learning in a small group is not only safe, because of its size, but encouraging because testimonies are heard every week. Small groups represent multiple backgrounds and a variety of personalities. Therefore we need to keep the practice of prayer simple and generous.
After members share what is stressful or life-draining, encourage them to pray for the person on their right (or left) and go around in a circle. Make sure members know they do not have to pray long – that simple, heartfelt prayers are enough.
Keep your own prayers free of “Christianese” words and phrases. Model short prayers that ask: “Help. . .” “Guide. . .” “Provide. . .” “Encourage. . .” “Heal. . .” “Deliver. . .” “Give. . .” It is too easy for leaders to give “sermons” or long declarations in their prayers because they have experienced so much about God and have learned so much about who he is. But it is more beneficial for small groups to hear their leader simply ask God for help. Prayers like these can be reproduced.
One way to help small groups deepen their prayer lives is to use scripture in prayer. It is vital to use scripture phrases that the group has studied from previous passages. They will recognize these scriptures and make deeper connections with God, the Holy Spirit, and scripture.
What if people are too shy to pray aloud?
If they struggle to pray aloud, they should still pray silently. When it is their turn to pray, give them time, then move on after they say, “amen.” Expect to feel the presence of God in powerful ways during someone’s silent prayer. Acknowledge this to them and the group so that the shy pray-er knows their prayers matter.
Keeping bible study groups small also alleviates stress for the shy person. They may be more willing to pray aloud if there are only a few people. Periodically ask the shy person if they are ready to pray aloud. In the meantime, encourage them to pray aloud at home, when they are alone, so that they get familiar with hearing their own voice in prayer.
Remember, prayer is a practice and therefore needs to be practiced!
